CONCLUSION!!!!

With anything in life we set ourselves goals and limits. With this there are expectations which allow us to push our own personal boundaries. To be 10 I had to let go a lot of what I knew and learn about the world from a new perspective. To be a child figuring out who you are is the hardest thing. The challenge is to be authentic and original. Yes my mum said every time I moved schools, "just be yourself, they'll love you" who's mother didn't say this. But in truth how do we know what being "ourself" is. Yes i may love horses and partying and reading,and I am loud...O and I'm from Zim. So who would like this? When we enter in a new school all we want is for people to like us and therefore at times we loose ourselves to fit in. This eventually creates a new person, you change and grow up and pick up things from others bad and good but all in all we effect one another.

We critic each other and place people in groups according to their likes, stereotyping based on physical attributes, preferences, looks, class, income...the list goes on and sadly it starts way before the age of ten without even realizing it. Kids can be cruel to each other with out realizing and those that are different are to shy and self-conscious to stand out. Later on though there will be the jocks, the arty kids,  and the Southern Suburb crowd and to be distinguished in this way carries expectations. However our biggest judge which is critical and punishing is ourselves. We may judge people but the saying goes the judge you right back.

I have definitely figured out from this brief that I want to be ME. NO longer a ten year old that still has to figure themselves out but me a young woman who is very harsh on herself, negative to protect herself but determined in the sense that who I am is everything. Where I have been, who I have met and interacted with, all my experiences up till now.My life till my 20th year has changed and is developing me into my  own unique person. Meanwhile Kayla my cousin 10 years younger exactly has a long way to go but each day will be something new without even realizing it and eventually looking back being somewhere for just a year will change how you hold your body and appearance to the world.

Being independent is a luxury that we are given from our parents and taking advantage of it is simply not fair. Being selfish and wanting everything in sight to me is not healthy there has to be a way to change the way people are with their children. We are the future and so far I have learnt we don't get what we want, we have to work for it. Each individual person has to have a sense of pride and status in the fact that they have achieved something in their life not by simply living off their parents credit.

I am glad I had this opportunity to deal with my passed and unravel the thought process and life of a 10 year old.

The Girl Effect

(The Girl Effect, Youtube Video,http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WIvmE4_KMNw)

WOMAN?!?!?

Growing up and becoming a Woman.

“Simon de Beauvoir suggest in The second sex that, “one is not born a woman, but rather becomes one”.” (From Subjects of Sex/ Gender/ Desire, the Critical Studies Reader 2A).  This quote opened up a new avenue for my Blog. While being a ten year old all I wanted to do was grow up and be able to do things again. This is true in comparison with Kayla my cousin as all she wants is to be older. Meanwhile now that I am 20 I am still not honest with my age when I go out. I say I am 21 trying to be older to pull off what? While my parents cringe at the thought of growing older and having to retire. Why retire, yes it’s connected to becoming old and incapable of doing your job but this does not suggest your life is over. I believe when you are young and carefree, with no responsibility it’s the only time in your life that you should be ever so grateful for, because as they say after that it “goes down hill”.  Simon de Beauvoir also talks about defining a woman through the complexities of time and discourse. He suggests when a woman grows up she obtains certain principles and attributes to define her gender. Her body becomes a medium for self-representation and is distinguished by comparing it to that of the male body. So does that mean as we grow, we grow into our gender? When we are younger is it excusable to act like a “tom boy” then because at that age you are only learning and some things like the “boundary” between male and feel is blurred. When I was younger it was like this. I grew up on a farm, loved the mud and being rough and playing with the boys. However when I left and went to Johannesburg I changed and became more feminine. To my family I was known as the “joburg girl” they said it changed me. BUT what if it was merely the fact that I was exposed to a different perspective and lifestyle in Johannesburg. It wasn’t that I did not want to be the girl from the farm I just enjoy dressing up but mixing it with casual. Now when I go home I am criticized for wearing to much make-up and dressing to fancy. So in different countries I am looked at completely differently. And even though I am still learning what it means to be a woman my body is definitely my canvas I incorporate where I come from and where I have been. I don’t fall into a box of the perfect woman and it was my upbringing that defines me. 

ALMOST OVER

Today was a pathetic day and after long consideration of what exactly to post about from puberty to young girls just struggling with their friendship I figured it was time to face my biggest challenge which i failed. Admittedly i really tried to conquer this but being positive 24/7 is one of the hardest things. I think people who are like this are insecure at the thought of a negative outcome. My thoughts on being negative are that if you plan  for the worst when the results are out it may not be as bad as you thought. And if it is bad at least you prepared yourself for it.  THis is my  way of thinking... and its been like that since I was young and I have no idea where it came from.  LIke with exams when I was writing my A levels i walked out of my economics class in tears and completely thought I had failed seeing as my predicted grade was a D but get this when i say my certificate I got an A. Know imagine how I felt so dam happy. Yes in a way i may be defying my own happiness but most of the time it doesn't last so rather be safe than sorry.  Of course being positive can change your life but what about failure.. there are times when it has opened up new doors of possibilities so it works both ways. 


I have been called the "black hat" of my  class due to my pessimism and my boyfriend has commented many times of how to change my approach to life. IT has made me made as I am stubborn in my ways but I really think its time to tackle this so for my last day on the Wednesday i am going to try my best to think and act positively. 


CHUCK GALLOZZI comments on  "Negative Thinking" and he states that, "complaining is the negation of happiness. It’s impossible to complain and be happy at the same time.

So, beware of that insidious disease known as ‘negativitis’ (negative thinking). It is as pervasive as the common cold, but far more damaging. It mutilates, cripples, and corrodes the human spirit. Those infected by it are broken men and women aimlessly plodding along. The dark clouds brooding over them obscure their vision and cause them to become confrontational, apathetic, and cynical."
 To be compared to this has really shocked me and r really do what to change the way that i approach Uni and my life in general because to be associated with that quote actually upsets me. So maybe its time for a change. 


Personal-development.com,A Blog,Negative Thinking (http://www.personal-development.com/chuck/negativethinking.htm,3/22/11)

MUUM you ruined everything

(Uploaded by shitstinx on Jun 25, 2007,AUDREY - the biggest & most SPOILED BRAT in the world,http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=90HhZ-pyC2Y&feature=player_embedded, 3/21/11)

ITS THE WRONG COLOUR.

(Spoilt Brat, by JazzFunky Jan 16 2007,HomorOn.com/Youtube,http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vSM1wZ5QEBM&feature=player_embedded)

NO School NO money BUT lets SHOP

(Is this the most spoiled child in Britain?Uploaded by GMTV on Aug 12, 2009, Interview, GMTV,http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8N9jgAfnfNA&feature=player_embedded, 3/21/11)

Having no school changes a lot of things some parents enjoy having the extra day with their kids but others dread it and now have to find ways to entertain them.. In most cases it involves taking them shopping mainly for the mums enjoyment but also because its easy...Put the child in the trolly or make them walk while percentage of the country (South Africa) lives on credit. It doesn't stop the shoppers. Most of their cards such as woolies or Mr Price cards are not even covered by their low income...But still mothers go shopping spoil themselves and their children. Yes i may be generalizing as I know some mothers are actually very disciplined with their children and know that they cant give them everything. But for this scenario I want to put emphasis on the amount of increasing mothers that spoil their children. It doesn't stop  when they are young as programs such as "the sweet sixteen" or "the Hill" recorded in america and the Uk reveal how spoilt children are. 

(The most spoiled girl in the world, Snotr Blog,http://www.snotr.com/video/902, 3/21/11)

Check out this site on a young girl called Alicia in America who is spoilt to the core with a christmas tree the whole year round because she deserves it. REALLY!!!!

I really don't get it 400 pounds her and there nut mum earns how much... I wanted a white pony.... my birthday has to be the best part of the century i want jaguars and photo shoot.... WOW WOW WOW..

Can any one please explain the mind set behind this..