Appropriate Relationships

Being ten has really heightened everything. I am more emotional and attached to my friends and family. Teachers shouting at me makes me sad I almost want to cry. The bed time is really hitting me hard and waking up so early. My life feels a bit out of focus at the moment. 
Not being allowed to have a boyfriend has been another issue which i am struggling with. As well as suddenly being closer with my parents who don't even live in South Africa. Now suddenly I am telling them about my day, how it went in detail which for me has been eliminated from my life since I was 10.

Kids these days are just expected to grow up faster, "growing up" and engaging in adult relationships at a very young age. I believe parents these days need to step up and a certain amount of toughness should be adhered toward ten-year-olds. The parent is the parent. There has to be a balance between involving your child in decisions and also setting the boundaries. Well this is what I feel.

Appropriate relationships for ten-year-olds certainly include the opposite sex, up to a certain point.  Ten-year-olds are learning to get along with everyone including the opposite sex. This involves play time, and learning how to  treat each other. Kids are also learning about being fair, being nice, sharing, finding common interests, doing well in school together, and providing support for each other in the face of difficult temptations such as drug use and gang violence.As well as facing puberty, with changes in their bodies especially for girls. So it is a fundamental time for parents to stay involved in their lives

The parent who helps steer their ten-year-old, lays the foundation for a full, happy life and guides them to understanding the difference between right and wrong. I really don't believe a parent should give in to their child.  There needs to be rules and punishment so the child can learn. Otherwise the child respects his or her parents less. 

For me I had great parents who did smack me but overall they taught me well and guided me into the mature lady I am today. I am not saying all parents should punish their child but really who likes a screaming kid in the super market demanding sweets.

As far as boys are concerned every family is different but I feel emotionally a child is too young to understand the boundaries that a proper relationship involves.

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Posted by K on March 30, 2009 06:10 PM

http://www.improvingyourworld.com/relationships/appropriate_relationships_for_tenyearolds_003288.html, 3/15/11